What does the Bible say...

I've been baptised twice times. When I was a baby, so that if died I wouldn't be sent to purgatory, and when I was twelve, because I was seen as old enough to chose (although it wasn't really posed that way at the time). So yes, I believe in God, Jesus, all the saints. I believe in the Virgin birth and the Resurrection.

I also believe that God didn't create all of this only to have us be miserable. I believe that He wants us to be happy and that the biggest slap in the face to this gift would be to spend our lives making ourselves and others miserable. I believe that God only wants us to be decent to each other, to love each other, to respect each other. My favorite quote on this topic is from The Color Purple. "I think it pisses God off if you walk by the color purple in a field somewhere and don't notice it."

I don't believe that God cares if I get married or not. I think He has bigger fish to fry then my refusal to buy into a sham created by society that just pressures people into taking their relationships to a level that when they're not ready; hence the divorce rate!

I'm happy to note that my very religious family has no problem with our proposed living situation; they just want me to be happy and I love that. My boyfriend's family isn't particularly religious. His ex-wife is (very) and I'm happy to know that so far she doesn't believe that our living situation isn't going to negatively impact her child. So looks like we're good on all fronts!

Cohabitation without Marriage

One question that I get often, from men and women (the men surprise me) is if we're getting married. And the answer is a resound NO. Granted, I guess it's not completely off the table, maybe we'll get the bug one day and drive to Idaho and do the deed and come home. But there's no rush because...

1. We've both already done the marriage dance and it didn't work out. It's not that either of are anti-marriage, it's just that there's not a lot that the formalities of a wedding and marriage will provide that we don't already have. There some stuff, but we're so great now so why change.



2. I absolutely abhor weddings. I don't like the drama that surrounds them, I don't like being the center of attention (I know, for those of you who know me, this has GOT to be a shocking revelation), and they just cost too much for what you get.



3. I don't know many people who are happily married. Whenever I try to think of a couple, Heidee and Greg are the only two who pop up for me. I'm certain that there are more, but they're just not coming to mind as I type.

There are more reasons, but then it just becomes a situation of protesting too much.

I think the only thing that I'm disappointed about is missing out on the jewelry and the gifts. Granted, we pretty much have everything, but a handful of gift cards always perk up a day!